Shattered worldview

[sobrique]

As you meet new people, you gradually come to realise, that there's some you just don't get along with. In some cases, the reason for this is obvious. In others, it can be less so.

I still don't entirely understand how this happens. I fully accept that not everyone sees the world quite the same way, and I'm more than happy to agree to disagree on a subject. But is it possible that the way someone sees things is just fundamentally incompatible?

Getting to know and understand people, starts with a common ground, and grows from mutual and disparate interests. But sometimes, it seems that the common ground to build on is very shakey indeed.

How much tolerance is a person automatically entitled to? The sensible people will simply avoid those that wind them up, simply because getting in fights daily is just no fun at all. But sometimes the situation is forced, either through work, or some other obligation. At which point you have to decide whether this interaction is worth the effort, or not.

It can be an unpleasant choice to make. And much easier rationalised by "they're just an arsehole". I've caught myself doing it.

I don't know. I find common ground with a lot of people, but I still find it hard dealing with some. Does mental illness/trauma come in to it, or is there some angle I'm missing, with the people who seem very effective at annoying multiple others?

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[mister-jack.livejournal.com]

Getting on with someone is different from having a meaningful friendship with them. Getting on with as many people as possible just plain makes life more pleasant.