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sobriqueAre you afraid of making a mistake?
Everyone does. I've caught myself doing it in the past - avoiding doing something, because I'm afraid of 'making a mistake'. Well, I hate to say it, but it's only in doing so that you learn and grow.
I caught myself worrying about mistakes I've made, people I've upset.
I found myself fearing doing so again, and worrying about things going wrong.
I promised myself I'd stop doing that. I'm not saying that one should be entirely care free. If you ignore the mistakes, they'll just happen again. If you deny them, you're doomed to repeat them. But it's also not worth overanalysing, and worrying about them.
You make a mistake, do what you can to make it right, think about what you could do to avoid it in future, and then put it behind you.
You plan for the future, and then leave it be. Checking a map book before driving somewhere new is a good idea. Paniccing that you're going to be late when you're caugh in traffic is wasted effort.
The other mistake I caught myself making was being afraid of doing something. Told myself there were risks that I wasn't prepared to take. Oddly, these were mostly in social situations. The geek instinct if you will - to avoid talking to people, and to stay clear of new social situations. Perhaps stemming from the school level ostracism. I've tried to avoid that too.
I was going to avoid that too. Caught myself doing it again a bit recently.
But if you don't try, you don't ever find out that you _can_ do something. If you learn to ride a bike, you wobble around, and probably fall off a few times. But you pick up the tricks, and after a while, it doesn't happen again. (Except when you're really very pissed).
Same's true of talking to people (even the pissed part). Some will cut you dead, or return scorn, but most won't.
In fact, it's better than that. Those who will scorn or react with derision are generally also not worth getting to know. Where most will forgive mistakes, and will react with compassion. And those are the people who are worth the effort of making a friend.
Everyone does. I've caught myself doing it in the past - avoiding doing something, because I'm afraid of 'making a mistake'. Well, I hate to say it, but it's only in doing so that you learn and grow.
I caught myself worrying about mistakes I've made, people I've upset.
I found myself fearing doing so again, and worrying about things going wrong.
I promised myself I'd stop doing that. I'm not saying that one should be entirely care free. If you ignore the mistakes, they'll just happen again. If you deny them, you're doomed to repeat them. But it's also not worth overanalysing, and worrying about them.
You make a mistake, do what you can to make it right, think about what you could do to avoid it in future, and then put it behind you.
You plan for the future, and then leave it be. Checking a map book before driving somewhere new is a good idea. Paniccing that you're going to be late when you're caugh in traffic is wasted effort.
The other mistake I caught myself making was being afraid of doing something. Told myself there were risks that I wasn't prepared to take. Oddly, these were mostly in social situations. The geek instinct if you will - to avoid talking to people, and to stay clear of new social situations. Perhaps stemming from the school level ostracism. I've tried to avoid that too.
I was going to avoid that too. Caught myself doing it again a bit recently.
But if you don't try, you don't ever find out that you _can_ do something. If you learn to ride a bike, you wobble around, and probably fall off a few times. But you pick up the tricks, and after a while, it doesn't happen again. (Except when you're really very pissed).
Same's true of talking to people (even the pissed part). Some will cut you dead, or return scorn, but most won't.
In fact, it's better than that. Those who will scorn or react with derision are generally also not worth getting to know. Where most will forgive mistakes, and will react with compassion. And those are the people who are worth the effort of making a friend.
