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sobrique ([personal profile] sobrique) wrote2009-11-09 08:45 pm

Introductions

This may sound like a stupid idea, but it's one I've been pondering. Is it likely to be workable to ... ask around friends who are single, and would prefer not to be, and introduce them to friends of other friends? Sort of like a dating agency, but on the theory that there will be a certain amount of commonality, and ... at least hypothetically, some notion that the two people might just get along.

Does that sound a recipe of disaster?

[identity profile] syven.livejournal.com 2009-11-09 08:55 pm (UTC)(link)
There is the potential for it to be a situation where you lose friends but it's got a great deal of good-will and kindness. Hypothetically, since you are going to be asking if they are willing to consider it, than it's something that they can't "blame" you for if it doesn't work out in the end.

It's a very lovely and generous idea, I think. Your friends are lucky to have someone like you who wants them to be happy.

[identity profile] jorune.livejournal.com 2009-11-09 11:28 pm (UTC)(link)
It sounds like a plot for an eighties sitcom. It kinds of sounding like http://www.mysinglefriend.com/. Good luck with your matchmaking.

[identity profile] linamishima.livejournal.com 2009-11-09 11:58 pm (UTC)(link)
That's kinda what friends do :P It's only creepy if you do it in order for people to get into further relationships - just helping friends make friends is awesome :)

[identity profile] mister-jack.livejournal.com 2009-11-10 10:54 am (UTC)(link)
Dude, there's an entirely more traditional and workable model for this: pick a likely combination, invite them both along to the same place and let nature take its course.

[identity profile] cbr-paul.livejournal.com 2009-11-10 11:22 am (UTC)(link)
Sounds like a very good and simple idea, as long as both parties realise what is going on and aren't being unwillingly set up.

[identity profile] kalkyrie.livejournal.com 2009-11-10 04:47 pm (UTC)(link)
Thinking that the 'friend agency' sounds like a better idea. A dating agency brings pressure and raised hopes, while a 'friends, possibly more' agency is altogether calmer.

Also stops me thinking about stereotypes of older women matchmaking younger generations in medieval villages, which is just plain confusing and may not even have happened.

[identity profile] velvet-nothing.livejournal.com 2009-11-10 11:02 pm (UTC)(link)
You could always have a party/gathering and invite as many people as possible who are single but would rather not be, then see what happens (and run bets on it, if you're feeling sadistic ;o))? I know I find a lot of the time these days that when I go out, the people I meet are almost always part of a couple already. A bigger social gathering would make it less awkward than a one-on-one meet up, whilst still giving the people the chance to meet each other.

Hmm

[identity profile] angryangeltoo.livejournal.com 2009-11-10 11:15 pm (UTC)(link)
You could be blamed if it all went tits up at a later date. Introduce people but don't "set them up". And don't get involved once they have been introduced.